S.O.F.T. and Strong: Brave Enough For Love

Episode 28: You Matter - Your Heart Matters

March 22, 2021 Bernice McDonald Season 1 Episode 28
S.O.F.T. and Strong: Brave Enough For Love
Episode 28: You Matter - Your Heart Matters
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Sometimes you wonder if it even matters that your heart was so broken. Does anyone care? 

That's your heart speaking. And it matters. You matter.

There is more to you than just heartbreak and a difficult life.

And today I wanted you to think about that. Because, IF YOU'RE EVER GOING to get beyond the wall that pain can put you behind - afraid to come out because it might happen again - then you MUST get this.

You have to see that there's no person vendetta against you. God is NOT using you for target practice. What I tell you in this podcast is a simple truth...about you, about you finding your heart again and about WHY you can't give up.

The plain truth is - we need you. All of us need you. Not just the man whose heart is waiting to be loved by yours. We. ALL. Need. You.

Come on in and have a listen. 

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Let's talk about the day you were born. What an awesome day. You were not just one of those billions of people that are come and gone on this earth. You weren't just "anybody", a random person. You were born"Somebody". You were born a heart -a beautiful, incredible, deep, gifted heart. You were born somebody with potential and some body that has purpose. You have a light to shine.

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You have a love to give. You are meant to have a song to sing. And that song is found in your beautiful heart.

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So you're a woman beyond 50. What is standing between you and the dreams that you have in your heart? I'll tell you, it's the Story that you're telling yourself. This podcast is about keeping our heart awake and open to love because those Stories are what closes your heart and keeps it locked up tightly. It takes courage every day to face those Stories. About 15 minutes a day, only, In fact. I'm Bernice McDonald, Courageous Happiness Coach. And that's the journey that I'm on in this life. I want you to find your heart again, to find the real you.

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The amazing courageous, loving, crazy, sexy woman that you were meant to be. Yup. Even after 50. You ready? Okay. Come on in. Let's take those 15 minutes right now.

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Let's talk about the day you were born. What an awesome day. You were not just one of those billions of people that have come and gone on this earth. You weren't just "anybody", a random person. You were born "Somebody". You were born a heart -, a beautiful, incredible, deep, gifted heart. You were born Somebody with potential and Somebody that has purpose.

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You have a Light to shine. You have a Love to give. You are meant to have a Song to sing. And that song is found in your beautiful heart. Now, let me tell you about where you're at in life. I want you to think of it as a Path. And many of you who have heard me speak before, know that this is what I harp on all the time. This is how I see life. And it's so simple.

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Life is like a Path. On the day you were born, you entered that Path. The day you die, you will leave that Path. When you were born a heart entered the world. Somebody meant to do something. That Path is your property. You own it. You know what? Nobody walks on that Path, but you. Nobody, it's only about you. And it's only you that makes the decisions about how you walk on that Path, about who you are going to be.

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Now, as you're walking, all of this stuff happens. These bombs go off and absolutely upset your world. These boulders fall on you. Think of Wiley Coyote from Bugs Bunny and the Road Runner and the Road Runner is always dropping these boulders on the coyote. And there he is with his hands and his legs sticking out from under the boulder. That happens. Stuff happens. Rocks get thrown at you. Rocks that hurt and cause a lot of pain. Where do they come from? They come from the people who are walking on their Paths right beside you.

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People who are doing the best they can with their own Paths, with their own life, trying to decide how to survive in this world just like you are. The Stories you tell yourself today have come out of those bombs, falling, those boulders dropping, those rocks being thrown at you.

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Those Stories, the meaning that you give to those events tell you about your worth. They tell you about your value, how you see yourself. They tell you about what matters to you. They tell you who to please and why. And they tell you who not to please and why. Those are all the decisions that you make while you, my beautiful lady, are walking this Path in this life. You decide, your heart decides, how you were going to walk this life. It decides the Story that you are going to believe.

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Now, let me tell you this. Our purpose is to learn to live, to be fully alive with a wide open heart on this Pathway. And if you are going to believe in the heart that was in that newborn baby that came into the world, because everything you needed was inside that heart... If you are going to bring that heart out today into the open so that you can be fully alive, then you're going to have to fight for it.

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You are going to have to fight to be you because you have so many people, as you well know, who are trying to tell you who they want you to be, who they think you should be. They are trying to put their standards, their values on you just to make themselves feel better. You are going to have to fight to be you. You are going to have to fight to find the light.

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And this is how we do it. You find the light that you are meant to shine. What is it? What's unique in how you see the world. You are going to have to find the love that you, yourself, your heart, has to give. How do you build and not destroy? How Do you believe in someone and not cause them to doubt about themselves? What is it in you that brings out their best?

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You are going to have to find what causes you to burst into song -to sing that song that you are meant to sing that song that brings joy. That song,that heals in the way that you were meant to heal. That song that brightens up the world. That song that is meant to change something. That song that is meant to fight for the heart of somebody else. This is what it means to be true to yourself, to find your heart, to fight for the you that is inside of you, maybe asleep, surrounded by a high wall.

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How do we break down those walls? How do we get to the place where you can be true to yourself? How can we get to the place where you're unstoppable, where you live? No matter the bombs, the boulders, the rocks being thrown at you, around you.

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Our three Power Pillars for today are these: To find your heart again, to open up to all of the incredible love that is around you. You are, first of all, going to have to have to know your "why". That's your Power Pillar #1. And your "why" is to be alive. To live this life, not to just observe life, not to just sleep it out until the day comes. when you leave your Path. So that's where we go to Power Pillar #2. We tell ourselves the Truth.

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The Truth Is... where are you in your Story right now? Where are you on your Path? What Story are you telling yourself? Are you saying "I can't"? Are you saying "I'm not enough"? Are you telling yourself that I'm too dumb, too poor, too shy, too old, too fat, too unlovable?

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Remember, life is simple. It's how...1. How you see yourself. And 2. How you see others. What's the truth about that for you today? What I want you to do is to realize that you're not stuck. You can wave the magic wand and flip that Story but you have to do it. You have to flip the page to the other side and read that Story on the other side. A new Story. The Truth Is... What sets your heart on fire? The Truth is... What stirs you up? What makes you want to jump in and rescue in some way? What makes you want to lift up?

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What makes you want to care about...? What makes you want to show some compassion?

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And that brings us to the third Power Pillar which is going to change your life. These are the pillars you need to build your life on from this moment forward. What are you going to do about it? What is your Hope-Filled Action? What's one step you could take today? Are you smiling at 3 men out there, looking them right in the eye and smiling at them, putting your shoulders back, holding your head high, adjusting your crown and smiling right into their eyes?

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Are you looking into the hearts of other people around you? What is one step you could take? Can you sign up for a course? Can you make a decision about who you're going to be and start to work toward becoming that person? Can you shake off the thorns that have been holding you in that wall and begin to climb out and over the other side? Can you make just one small Hope-Filled decision today and another one tomorrow and another one the next day...just small, tiny baby steps will get you there.

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What could you do? Where could you start? So your three Power Pillars: Know your "why". Start to live again. Tell yourself the Truth in Power Pillar #2. Where are you and where do you want to be? How can you change your Story to a new Story and start taking Power Pillar #3, those Hope-Filled Action steps toward that. Alright, my gorgeous lady with the beautiful heart. I want you to go out there and sparkle. I want you to go out there and live in your awesome. I want you to believe and not doubt.

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And I will talk to you on the next podcast. 

(You can message me @opentoloveagain on Instagram)

The REASON you're here.
Life is actually very simple - and it's crucial to see it this way.
You make up Stories to explain why life happens to you like it does.
You are going to have to FIGHT to be YOU
Power Pillar #1: Your "why" is to be ALIVE while you live this life. Find your heart.
Power Pillar #2: The Truth Is...you have light to shine.
Hope-Filled Action: Your steps to finding that light which is yours alone.